The Sacred Work of Paying Attention

Spirituality

The Sacred Work of Paying Attention

Dr. Justin Tilghman July 22, 2026 4 min read

"Be still, and know that I am God." Psalm 46:10 There’s a strange assumption many of us carry into the Christian life. We assume that if God wants to teach us something, He'll ma

"Be still, and know that I am God."
Psalm 46:10

There’s a strange assumption many of us carry into the Christian life. We assume that if God wants to teach us something, He'll make it obvious. A dramatic answer to prayer. A life-changing sermon. An unmistakable sign that leaves no room for doubt.

Sometimes He does.

But more often, I think God's work is quieter than that.

It happens in ordinary moments we usually rush past. A conversation that lingers in our minds longer than expected. An emotion we can't quite explain. A verse we've read a hundred times that suddenly feels personal. A child asking an innocent question. The sunrise we almost missed because we were already thinking about tomorrow.

The older I get, the more convinced I become that one of the greatest obstacles to spiritual growth isn't ignorance. It's inattention. We are surrounded by invitations from God, yet we often move too quickly to notice them.

God Is Already at Work

When we think about hearing from God, it's easy to imagine extraordinary experiences. We picture burning bushes, miraculous healings, visions, or unmistakable answers to prayer. Those moments certainly exist in Scripture, and sometimes they happen in our own lives. But they are not the norm.

Throughout the Bible, God often meets people in the middle of ordinary life. Moses was tending sheep when he noticed a bush that burned without being consumed. Samuel was lying in bed when he heard his name. Ruth was gathering grain. David was caring for sheep. The disciples were fishing, walking dusty roads, sharing meals, or grieving a crucifixion.

The Pace of Formation

We live in a culture that rewards speed. Respond quickly. Produce more. Move on to the next thing. Even our spiritual lives can become another productivity project. Read another chapter. Finish another devotional plan. Listen to another sermon. Check another box.

None of those things are bad. In fact, they can be deeply life-giving. But spiritual formation has never been about moving faster.

Dallas Willard often described spiritual formation as the gradual transformation of our inner world into the likeness of Christ. That kind of transformation rarely happens at the pace of our calendars. It unfolds slowly, quietly, and often almost imperceptibly. Fruit doesn't appear because we tried harder. It grows because we remained connected to the Vine.

Perhaps that's one reason Jesus seemed remarkably unhurried. He never appeared rushed, even when surrounded by urgent needs. He noticed the people others overlooked. He saw Zacchaeus hidden in a tree. He stopped for the woman who touched His cloak. He heard the cries of blind beggars everyone else wanted to silence. He welcomed children when the disciples considered them interruptions.

Jesus wasn't distracted by what seemed most urgent. He was attentive to what His Father was doing.

Paying Attention to Your Own Heart

One of the greatest gifts God has given us is the ability to become aware. Not self-absorbed, but aware. Aware of His presence. Aware of our own hearts. Aware of the people around us.

Our emotions, reactions, longings, and recurring thoughts frequently become the places where God gently invites us into deeper transformation. Not because every feeling is true, but because every feeling tells us something worth paying attention to.

Awareness Before Change

As a coach, I've discovered something that surprises many people. Lasting change rarely begins with behavior. It begins with awareness.

You cannot surrender what you refuse to notice. You cannot heal what you continually ignore. You cannot invite God into places you've learned to avoid.

So often we ask, "What should I do?" Perhaps a better question is, "What is God inviting me to notice?"

That shift changes everything. Instead of trying to manufacture growth, we begin cooperating with the work God is already doing.

Practicing the Presence

Brother Lawrence, a seventeenth-century monk, became known for something surprisingly ordinary. He practiced the presence of God while washing dishes. Not during worship services. Not only during prayer. While doing kitchen chores.

He discovered that every ordinary moment could become an opportunity for communion with God.

I think we've complicated this more than we need to. Paying attention isn't another spiritual discipline to master. It's a posture. It's choosing to live with open eyes and an attentive heart, believing that God is already present long before we become aware of Him.

A Simple Practice

For the next thirty days, I want to invite you into one simple practice. Before you pick up your phone each morning, pause. Take one slow breath. Then ask God one question:

"Lord, what are You inviting me to notice today?"

Don't rush to answer it. Simply carry the question with you throughout the day.

Maybe you'll notice an anxious thought you've been avoiding. Maybe you'll recognize an opportunity to encourage someone. Maybe you'll become aware of God's kindness in an ordinary conversation. Or perhaps you'll simply realize that He has been nearer than you imagined all along.

The sacred work of paying attention isn't really about becoming more observant.

It's about becoming more available.

Because more often than not, the God we're looking for is already at work in the ordinary moments we've almost overlooked.

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