What Actually Helps Life and Leadership Hold Under Pressure
A steadier way to live and lead—formed through emotional maturity, relational depth, and grounded faith.
Pressure reveals emotional and relational gaps no one ever taught us how to address.
How Growth Actually Happens Under Pressure
Lasting change doesn’t come from trying harder or adding more strategies.
It comes from strengthening the emotional and relational capacity that pressure exposes.
The work I do focuses on how people grow when stress is real—by developing:
emotional maturity that supports regulation rather than reactivity
relational skill that allows connection and repair under strain
spiritual formation that moves beyond knowledge into lived experience
My approach is grounded in neuroscience, relational development, and Christian spiritual formation—and applied through a coaching process designed for real life and leadership.
I often refer to this as NeuroRelational Coaching™.
A Different Way of Understanding Growth and Change
It isn’t therapy, and it isn’t surface-level motivation. It’s a coaching approach that works with how the brain, relationships, and lived experience actually shape growth—especially under pressure.
Maybe this is why you’re here…
You may recognize some of this:
You feel emotionally worn down or spiritually dry
You know what Scripture says is true, but it’s hard to live from it consistently
Your relationships carry tension, even though you care deeply
Responsibility feels heavy, and growth feels disconnected from practice
Miscommunication or team strain sits just under the surface
You sense the need for change that actually shifts culture and capacity
If any of this resonates, it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.
It means pressure is revealing areas of growth that were never intentionally formed.
What This Work Helps Strengthen
I support your growth by helping you to strengthen the emotional, relational, and spiritual capacities that pressure exposes—so change becomes sustainable rather than forced.
Clarity that grounds you — spiritual alignment and identity coherence
Emotional and relational resilience — regulation, connection, and repair
Leadership with presence — steady decision-making and influence
Lasting change — not quick fixes, but real transformation
Choose Your Pathway
Leadership & Teams
Support for leaders and teams navigating pressure, complexity, and responsibility—strengthening emotional and relational capacity so trust, clarity, and culture can hold under strain.
Personal Growth & Development
Support for your inner life, faith, and relationships—helping growth move from insight into lived, embodied change.
What Growth Has Looked Like for Others
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Shoyka M., NC
When I rededicated my life to Christ, I was hungry for direction but unsure what came next. I read Scripture, watched sermons, and tried to stay afloat—but something was missing. Then I discovered Justin. From my first meeting with him, I knew God had led me there to find freedom and perspective. Jesus is the Author and Perfecter of my faith, but He also uses others—like Justin—to guide us toward healing and growth.
Since working with Justin, I’ve gained practical tools, resources, and spiritual insight that have transformed my walk with Christ. For the first time, I feel safe to be completely honest—no judgment, only grace and truth grounded in Scripture. My mindset has shifted, my faith has deepened, and I now live with greater intention and peace. If you’re longing for biblical guidance, renewed perspective, and freedom in Christ, Justin is where you’ll find it.
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Samwel M., Kenya
Justin has been my mindset mentor ever since I first found his book and met him. Through his inspiration and mentoring of me, I have seen a lot of changes in my life and he has helped me to understand why God created me and the purpose He has for my life. Through his mentoring of me, so many people in Kenya are now learning from his work as I carry his teachings into my work in the Kenyan prisons.
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Chad M., TN
Dr. Justin Tilghman is an exceptional coach who seamlessly integrates leadership strategies, personal growth, and faith-based wisdom. Over the past year, his mentorship has helped me clarify my core values, align my leadership style, and find balance in life. His faith-centered guidance has shown me how to experience resilience and joy through Christ, even in challenging seasons. Working with Justin has been transformative, and I wholeheartedly recommend him to anyone seeking personal and professional growth.
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Mallory G., NC
Justin is awesome! I’ve been working with him for about 8 months now. Before I started coaching with Justin, I just found myself stuck. Struggling with an anxious heart, I had no sort of framework for boundaries, and it all left me exhausted. I knew what God said was true about me but I struggled to be able to live like it was true. If you struggle with any of those, or you want to start a path to developing emotionally healthy relationships and grow deeper relationship in your relationship with God, then Justin will be extremely helpful to you! I’m so grateful for Justin and being able to have this experience!
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Justin S., MA
Justin's ability to break down complex challenges into manageable steps has been invaluable in helping me overcome obstacles and achieve personal milestones. What truly sets Justin apart is his genuine investment in his clients' well-being and growth. He doesn't just offer advice; he actively listens, asks thought-provoking questions, and provides unwavering support. His commitment to my journey was evident in the progress I've made under his guidance.
Looking back, my decision to work with Justin has been life-changing. The growth I have experienced, both spiritually and in my daily life, is a testament to his expertise and dedication. If you are seeking a coach who will walk alongside you, empower you to unlock your potential, and guide you towards meaningful transformation, I wholeheartedly recommend Justin.
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Alex S., SC
Justin is a fantastic coach and more importantly a fantastic person. I came to him in the beginning of this year seeking spiritual growth, advice, and counseling on how to pursue a Christ-centered life. Justin is extremely approachable and is an expert listener. He also has an uncanny ability to find meaning behind everything that you tell him. He has guided me through my relationship with the Lord in providing passages, books of the Bible, and outside resources. He has provided me with several lifelong practices that continue to influence my everyday life. He has also helped me with my relationship with my (now) fiance, providing Christ-centered advice on how to care for my significant other. I continue to meet with Justin and learn from and grow with him in his advice and guidance from the Lord.
You Don’t Have to Grow Alone
Leading, growing, or simply trying to live faithfully can feel heavy—especially when life is loud, complex, or uncertain. Many Christians carry responsibility well on the outside while feeling unsettled, reactive, or unsure on the inside, even when they care deeply about doing the right thing.
If you feel stuck, you’re not failing. You’re human. And you may be in a season that calls for formation and support—not more pressure or willpower.
This work isn’t about quick answers or surface-level encouragement. It’s about walking with you through a thoughtful, grounded growth process that strengthens emotional resilience, deepens relational maturity, and supports spiritual formation—so life and leadership become steadier, healthier, and more aligned with who God created you to be.
Start your journey today!
At Balanced Coaching, I work with Christians and Christian leaders who want to live and lead with greater clarity, purpose, and steadiness. Whether you’re at a personal crossroads or sensing that something in your work, leadership, or relationships needs deeper attention, you don’t have to sort it out on your own.
Life and leadership have a way of getting full and complex. Even with good intentions and sincere faith, it’s easy to drift into patterns of stress, disconnection, or spiritual fatigue that quietly shape how we show up each day.
Growth, however, was never meant to happen in isolation. God designed transformation to unfold in the context of safe relationships, honest reflection, and intentional formation.
That’s why I offer Christ-centered coaching and leadership development grounded in emotional, relational, and spiritual maturity. Not so you strive harder, but so you grow deeper — developing the inner stability and relational capacity that support lasting change in both life and leadership.
Dr. Justin Tilghman is a Christian life and mindset coach, pastor, professor, and author. He is the founder of Balanced Coaching and the developer of the NeuroRelational Coaching™ framework, integrating neuroscience, emotional maturity, and Christian spiritual formation. Justin also serves as Pastor of Development at Grace Fellowship Church, teaches leadership at Carolina College of Biblical Studies, and co-hosts the Encounter Grace Podcast.